Love at First Sight?
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Love At First Sight?
I suppose the best place to start would be to ask what your definition of love is. For you is it that feeling you get in the pit of your stomach whenever you think that person’s name? Is it knowing that he/she accepts you just the way you are? Is it being able to sit in a room and exist peacefully together without having to say a word? Is it flowers and candy and expensive dates?
Everyone’s perception of love is different, making it difficult to define or classify. But still, whatever your definition is, do you believe that two people can meet one day and fall in love, REAL love, without really knowing one another? I do.
To me, love is relative – situational. In other words, it may take an act of God to make you fall in love or stay in love with the man on the left, but the man on the right can do everything wrong and still have your love and devotion. That kind of touches on what I mean. That same factor that makes you differentiate your feelings from one individual to the next could also cause you to fall for someone sooner than usual – whatever the “usual” may be for you. But why? Is it science – pheromones and symmetry and all that jazz? Or is it something more mystical and spiritual than that? Fate? Kismet even? There’s no way to tell, but I do know that I believe in it. I myself have fallen victim to this sort of captivation. And no, it has nothing to do with a person’s physical appearance or status or anything like that. Sometimes a person just has that…..special something that grabs you and holds you prisoner.
So what happens when this feeling hits you and you’re already in a relationship? This is a situation that arises in a couple of my novels, including one of the two that I recently published. Do you leave the one you’re with and follow your heart? Or do you go in the direction that your moral compass is leading you? Tough call. At any rate, love is meant to be enjoyed and shared. Don’t let it become the source of your misery. If it does, you might want to reevaluate and figure out if what you THINK is love is really another emotion cloaked in love’s innocence. Beware.
On that note, I’ll leave you with food for thought: In the situation I just mentioned above, if you stay put and possibly let the love of your life get away, does that make you a martyr? Are you essentially sacrificing your own happiness for the happiness of another?
An excerpt from ‘Gravity’, book one of my series titled, ‘Free Falling’ –
“I’d never in my life experienced such a rush. In those moments, I was crazed for him – obsessed with this feeling. I knew what it must feel like to get high. It was like I’d been trying to get here – to him – all my life even though I didn’t realize that it was him my world was missing.”
– My personal take on love at first sight…….